Working housewives: why do we take on everything?

Nowadays, many women spend as much time at work as men do. At the same time, they don’t rest at home, but start doing household chores. Women have to cook, do the washing, clean and much more. As a result, the entire household falls on fragile shoulders, while the man is self-effacing. But this is not the way to do it. You have to understand why women work and at the same time take over as housewives.

Women do not entrust others with household chores

It is worth noting the innate perfectionism of women. Even if they entrust a man with household tasks, he will do everything wrong: wrong washing up, hanging laundry in the wrong place and so on. That’s why it’s important to learn to trust others to do the housework and to believe that without a woman’s help everything will be done well.

In addition, if you entrust a man with some of the chores, he can make them a lot easier. For example, he may get bored doing the dishes and decide to buy a dishwasher.

It’s also important to understand that the man is a full member of the family. And if you entrust him with cooking dinner, you don’t have to advise him on the dish. Let him be imaginative and try to surprise you.

Constant guilt

Although now the world is gradually erasing gender stereotypes, in our country, they still affect women. Therefore, they still believe that you have to take care of a man and do all the housework yourself. The stronger sex is only required to earn money. And if you have to puzzle your husband about something, the woman still feels guilty.

But there’s nothing wrong with that. A woman has every right to take an evening off with her friends and ask her husband to do some of the housework. And it is important to praise and thank him for his help afterwards. This appreciation of their work is appreciated by men, even if they are thanked for a simple dishwashing.

In addition, it is not unreasonable to get together a household council and think of ways to make household chores easier. For example, a robot hoover and dishwasher would be a good helper. These devices will allow you to get rid of some tasks and devote more time to the family.

Many women imitate their parents

Women saw their mothers taking care of their fathers from an early age, doing almost everything for them. Everything was taken for granted and everyone was happy. However, this is all a relic of the past. While this behaviour in the family used to be considered normal, now the genders have equalised and there should be no difference in terms of doing household chores between them.

But it is worth realising that in some cases this was due to the fact that in the past the woman really only did the housework and the man worked. If this is also the case in your family, then this model should simply be accepted. Otherwise, it is better to talk to your husband about the possibility of sharing household tasks equally.

Women like to be in control

Yes, women do try to control almost everything. But it’s worth understanding that nothing will happen if you don’t pay attention to something. Some people get into this habit at work and then move on to chores at home. But it’s worth separating the two. If at work you have to keep track of everything, you don’t have to do it at home.

You have to understand that you live with a man who also has responsibilities on an equal footing with you. And if you run out of clean dishes, he can wash a few plates himself. As said before, a man should be trusted and encouraged to do some household chores.

Women don’t know how to ask for help

In some cases, women seem to ask for help, but the man does things without enthusiasm. And it’s because he’s not properly motivated. So it makes sense to explain to a man that if he helps you clean the house, you will cook his favourite meal in the meantime.